Thanks for going so deep into this skillset. I think it is highly needed. I learned a lot!
Thanks for going so deep into this skillset. I think it is highly needed. I learned a lot!
Read LessKinship: A rooted feeling of closeness, of being ‘family,’ a shared sense of responsibility for well-being. Tending is the deliberate choice to grow and strengthen these bonds to the whole community.
Why? Individualism is a myth that’s doing us all harm, and we’ve forgotten that we’re in this together. We are not only kin with our biological family, but all humans - in fact, All Beings!
Our nervous systems are interwoven - all beings, everywhere. Ways to help others regulate: staying regulated yourself, sharing skills, teaching songs, checking in, listening, consent, etc.
Sew seeds of connection. Get to know people and make meaningful introductions to others, so that each of us can be known and bring our gifts to community.
As we re-member how to live in community, we need different social skills. Facilitate social learning to promote joy and reduce harm. Attunement, reciprocity, conflict as an opportunity to learn without shame, etc.
Our four live Zoom sessions will look at a gathering from perspectives (attendee, kitchen crew, event planner, etc.).
Attend one or all, but the content does build on itself, so we invite you to watch the recordings if you can.
We'll alternate between brief presentations and short panel discussions from folks with experience carrying those roles in community gatherings.
We plan to decolonize time a bit in terms of when we finish, in order to have a great experience and solid recordings. So please plan for them to end somewhat later than 8 (and we'll understand if you can't stay).
The first half will introduce kinship tending at gatherings and focus on the roles of attendees, members of the kinship tending team at the gathering, and the kinship tending team coordinators in terms of belonging.
The second half focuses on the roles of facilitators/performers, facilities & kitchen crews, venue hosts, and event planners.
The full recordings will go into the course player and we'll also be splicing and dicing to make it easier for folks to watch just the parts most relevant to them.
Our hope is that event planners recommend this course to everyone involved in their gatherings to level up everyone's kinship tending skills and nourish belonging for ALL.
Many, many folks within our diverse community have collaborated on this project, allowing you to see tending to belonging from lots of different perspectives.
This is also a work in progress and will change over time. Your voice is welcome, too!
Move beyond “inclusion” checklists. Learn how to shape spaces where everyone feels seen, supported, and free to participate fully—especially those often left out.
Whether you’re planning an event, teaching a workshop, or attending, you’ll leave with tangible practices to make gatherings more humane, welcoming, and connected.
Gatherings can be places where new ways of being together are practiced. You’ll explore how small choices—like how people arrive, rest, interact, or say no—can shift the whole culture.
We're calling in everyone who cares about belonging to have a juicy and evolving conversation on how we can learn and practice these community skills at gatherings.
Festivals, song circles, parties, weddings, grief spaces, concerts, classes, and other events are all places to connect and swap skills for kinship tending.
You're building a future where people know how to show up for each other.
You want to be part of gatherings that feel generative, not extractive.
You’ve been to events where people slipped through the cracks—and you want to help change that.
You believe belonging is a shared responsibility, not just an organizer’s job.
You’re curious how nervous system care, songs, and support systems can transform gatherings.
You want language and frameworks to talk about care, power, welcome, and community in meaningful ways.
You want to make your gatherings feel less like survival and more like nourishment.
You know that setting intentions and asking questions will head us in the direction of a culture of belonging, even if we don't have all the answers.
You'll also get the recordings and supplementary materials. Please also invite your friends!
On-Demand Workshop. Hone your facilitation skills for any sort of space, from song leading to workshops. What's your intention and how do you bring it to life? Learn to create a container, hold space, and guide others through your curriculum.
On-Demand workshop. Gathering is great, but how do you keep it going when the inevitable conflict arises, and turn that into an opportunity to grow an even deeper bond? For intentional communities, organizations, non-profits, families, etc/
On-Demand. Virtual Song Circle. "May this body be a bridge for the healing of this land." - Te Martin. These times call for rooting down into our collective strength and tenderness. Held up by the earth, remembering we are nature in human form.
On-demand song circle. Belonging is a major wound that needs healing in the modern age, and re-membering we all belong and contribute is the core focus of Stellar Village. This session of connective songs is just the kind of medicine we need!
On-demand workshop. Tracking is carefully paying attention to the experience of another, for their benefit and the benefit of the greater community. When we track dogs and their wellbeing, it's good for them and for us!
On-demand workshop. Healthy communication isn't about words, it's feeling safe enough in our bodies to lean into tender connection. Learn 7 communication pitfalls to shift away from and 3 core skills to create more connected relationships right now!
