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# Stellar Village Kinship Tending

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- [Kinship Tending Skills: How Can You Contribute to a Culture of Belonging? (Festivals & Gatherings Edition)](https://www.stellarvillage.com/kinship-tending/) - Free On-Demand Video Workshop. To view, log in as a member and scroll down, or apply to join Stellar Village. In this course: build practical skills to nurture true belonging at festivals and gatherings, whether you’re an attendee, facilitator, organizer, take care of the land the gathering is on, or something else. This is a
- [What Increases People's Capacity to Expand Their Perspective at Gatherings or Other Events?](https://www.stellarvillage.com/what-increases-peoples-capacity-to-expand-their-perspective/) - People tend to become more open to examining their paradigms (how they see the world) when: 1. They feel emotionally safe. Openness rarely comes from being shamed or cornered. It blooms in relationship, when we feel seen and supported without animosity. Safety blooms when the inevitable ruptures are repaired. That said, if you can soften yourself
- [Grief Resources #14. Songs for Grief Ritual](https://www.stellarvillage.com/grief-resources-14-songs-for-grief-ritual/) - Grief ritual in the Dagara lineage often includes at least one song during the day, during the drumming, where everyone has a chance to grieve at the altar as and when they feel like it. Grief rituals in other traditions also often include song. In the rituals at Village Rising, we also include several simple
- [Grief Resources #13. Links to Dive Deeper Into Grief Practice](https://www.stellarvillage.com/grief-resources-13-links-to-dive-deeper-into-grief-practice/) - Here's a small selection of the resources we recommend. This is just for your own reference, not required at all for you to do for the ritual. That said, you may get more out of the experience with these additional references. Books & Essays: Wild Edge of Sorrow Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work
- [Grief Resources # 12. Zoom Grieving - come grieve with us!](https://www.stellarvillage.com/grief-resources-12-zoom-grieving-come-grieve-with-us/) - We have grief woven into song circles and other offerings, and we also have some specific meetups for communal grieving. If you're a member, Check the Calendar on the Offerings page for the most up-to-date information. If you're not a member yet, join here. Grief & Gratitude meets monthly in Zoom, on the fourth Saturday of each month
- [Grief Resources # 11. Writing Prompts for the Gates](https://www.stellarvillage.com/grief-resources-11-writing-prompts-for-the-gates/) - Writing Prompts or Shuttles can be a powerful way to let your grief come through in a free and undiluted form. It can be a form of micro-ritual. Francis Weller highly recommends that you write for a set amount of time- 5, 7, or 10 minutes, for example. Using a shuttle gives you a way
- [Grief Resources # 10. The 6 Gates of Grief](https://www.stellarvillage.com/grief-resources-10-the-6-gates-of-grief/) - The six gates of grief can be thought of as areas that bring up grief or our pathway into the feelings of grief. This may or may not be gone over in more depth in your community grief ritual. As you read this list, feel into your body. Feel free to use these as journal,
- [Grief Resources # 9. Emotional Approach to Retirement Planning](https://www.stellarvillage.com/grief-resources-9-emotional-approach-to-retirement-planning/) - I read a book called "Happiness Is a Choice You Make: Lessons from a Year Among the Oldest Old" by Paul Leland. It's not a wonderful book, I have to say, but it did have a few great ideas. In it, the interviewed centenarians' words made it clear that they were most happy in their life
- [Grief Resources # 8. How Do You Help a Grieving Friend?](https://www.stellarvillage.com/grief-resources-8-how-do-you-help-a-grieving-friend/) - When you share your grief out in the default world, sometimes folks are not yet ready to face their own grief and will respond with toxic positivity, often meant to be helpful compassion:"It's all going to be ok, think positively...here's a tissue."Here's a video by Megan Devine with advice for how to help friends who are grieving.
- [Grief Resources # 7. Ways to Listen Mindfully](https://www.stellarvillage.com/grief-resources-7-ways-to-listen-mindfully/) - Paying Attention When we use mindfulness to listen, we are extremely present with the person. We're not trying to fix them, to make suggestions, to have something witty to say in reply. The point is to listen to the main content, but also to allow all levels of communication to happen. In grief ritual, witnessing
- [Grief Resources # 6. Keep Talking About It](https://www.stellarvillage.com/grief-resources-6-keep-talking-about-it/) - Grieving in community allows us to be seen, and we can release so much of what we have kept frozen inside, especially if there's any shame woven into it. We all carry grief, and if you can boldly share yours, you may be surprised by who responds tenderly - and sharing your grief might give
- [Grief Resources # 5. You Don't Always Have to Be Positive! Be Authentic](https://www.stellarvillage.com/grief-resources-5-you-dont-always-have-to-be-positive-be-authentic/) - This is a good time to talk about the drawbacks of positivity. It's popular to try to just think positive thoughts all the time, but this is a form of spiritual bypassing: ideologies that systematically avoid wrestling with and integrating dark emotions. Reframing self-destructive thoughts (like "I suck at dog training") to something with a healthier perspective
- [Grief Resources # 2. Loss of a Loved One: The Relationship isn't Gone, It's Different](https://www.stellarvillage.com/grief-resources-2-loss-of-a-loved-one-the-relationship-isnt-gone-its-different/) - There really is no such thing as closure, like you're just closing up shop and done with ever thinking about the person, dog, or other beloved. And at the same time, it does change - not just through time, but through mourning. There is a sense of peace that comes from fully accepting that the past
- [Grief Resources # 3. Benefits of a Practice of Grief Work and Obstacles to Doing It](https://www.stellarvillage.com/grief-resources-3-benefits-of-a-practice-of-grief-work-and-obstacles-to-doing-it/) - “Grieving is a way to say yes to life. When we grieve, we let out the toxins, so that we can embrace life again. When we don’t grieve, our creativity becomes dim or almost nonexistent. But when we grieve, especially when we grieve together as a community, there’s almost a like magic that happens in
- [Grief Resources # 5. Acceptance and Joy in the Midst of Loss](https://www.stellarvillage.com/grief-resources-5-acceptance-and-joy-in-the-midst-of-loss/) - Acceptance: What Happened, Really Happened (or if it's ongoing, what is happening is really happening) I deliberately left the F word out of the title of this page (forgiveness) because it's misunderstood. Some people think that forgiveness means to say it was okay that the person did whatever they did. That isn't actually what real forgiveness is,
- [Grief Resources # 4. Helpful Ways to See This Precious Life](https://www.stellarvillage.com/grief-resources-4-helpful-ways-to-see-this-precious-life/) - You may revisit the material in this free series as many times as you want. I've found that my life lessons often spiral around, and I imagine they do for you, too: even when I think I really understand something, when I encounter it again, I still learn more, at a completely different level. You might want
- [Grief Resources #1. Recent Loss: Remember You Have a Body During Transitions and Other Grief](https://www.stellarvillage.com/grief-series-1-recent-loss-remember-you-have-a-body-during-transitions-and-other-grief/) - Transitions include any kind of change in our life, including loss through death, change in relationship status, moving, switching jobs, graduating, a diagnosis, or any kind of change in identity, to name a few. All transitions bring with them the possibility of experiencing grief, so please read this section even if you haven't experienced any giant
- [How to Make Land More Accessible for Gatherings (as a Land Steward)](https://www.stellarvillage.com/how-to-make-land-more-accessible-for-gatherings-as-a-land-steward/) - Do you rent your land for campouts, festivals, weddings, or other events? Here are some long-term practices to help your place feel more welcoming, usable, and safe for a wider range of people, across ability, age, class, culture, and body. Thank you for reading this. Your consideration helps everyone know they belong! Best Practices & What's the
- [BIPOC Affinity Spaces: How to Create Sanctuaries for People of the Global Majority at Events](https://www.stellarvillage.com/bipoc-affinity-spaces-sanctuary-for-people-of-the-global-majority-at-events/) - A Resilience Space Created by and for BIPOC Gatherings with mostly folks of European descent can be stressful. If we care about belonging, it's essential for Black and Brown folks to have a place to land, connect with another, and ease one another's nervous systems. Having a space like this enables us to show up
- [Food! Easy Ways to Diversify Meals at Camps and Events](https://www.stellarvillage.com/food-easy-ways-to-diversify-meals-at-camps-and-events/) - Feeding a large group at an outdoor camp or any kind of gathering is a big task. It's also a beautiful opportunity to create a sense of cultural inclusion and care. Food is one of the most powerful ways we can help people feel seen, nourished, and welcomed. In my interviews with folks about belonging,
- [Children Are Part of the Village: Creating a Thoughtful Kids Area at Your Gathering](https://www.stellarvillage.com/children-are-part-of-the-village-creating-a-thoughtful-kids-area-at-your-gathering/) - At any gathering, whether a festival, retreat, or community event, kids aren’t just tagging along. They’re part of the village. How we welcome children shapes the whole culture of the event. We all carry belonging wounds and many of those are rooted in childhood experiences. So let’s use our gatherings to create wonderful memories and
- [Considering Access Needs is the Key to Belonging at Your Event](https://www.stellarvillage.com/considering-accessibility-is-the-key-to-belonging/) - What Does Access Really Mean at Gatherings? When we talk about access, we’re really talking about care. We’re talking about creating spaces where people can show up fully, in their bodies, hearts, minds, and cultures. It’s important to remember that folks with more privilege often already have many of their access needs quietly met by default.
- [Making a Rest & Rejuvenation Station: A Soft Place to Land at Your Gathering](https://www.stellarvillage.com/making-a-rest-rejuvenation-station-a-soft-place-to-land-at-your-gathering/) - Every gathering, whether a festival, retreat, wedding, party, or conference, needs spaces where people can ease their nervous systems, reconnect with themselves, and build belonging in a way that feels gentle and real. The information below is what we've learned by having a Rest and Rejuvenation Station at Cascadia Song Rise, an annual gathering of
- [Designing Scholarships & Financial Support for Gatherings & Events](https://www.stellarvillage.com/designing-scholarships-financial-support-for-gatherings-events/) - Tone and Framing Is the language non-shaming, non-paternalistic, and invitational? (e.g., avoids implying that people receiving support are less committed or less worthy) Does it frame support as a community care practice rather than charity? Process Design Is the process simple, with minimal emotional or bureaucratic burden? (e.g., no invasive questions or long forms) Can people ask for
- [Building Bridges Across Diverse Spectrums](https://www.stellarvillage.com/building-bridges-across-diverse-spectrums/) - This paragraph serves as an introduction to your blog post. Begin by discussing the primary theme or topic that you plan to cover, ensuring it captures the reader’s interest from the very first sentence. Share a brief overview that highlights why this topic is important and how it can provide value. Use this space to
- [The Importance of Inclusivity in Modern Communities](https://www.stellarvillage.com/the-importance-of-inclusivity-in-modern-communities/) - This paragraph serves as an introduction to your blog post. Begin by discussing the primary theme or topic that you plan to cover, ensuring it captures the reader’s interest from the very first sentence. Share a brief overview that highlights why this topic is important and how it can provide value. Use this space to
- [Creating Safe Spaces for Diverse Connections](https://www.stellarvillage.com/creating-safe-spaces-for-diverse-connections/) - This paragraph serves as an introduction to your blog post. Begin by discussing the primary theme or topic that you plan to cover, ensuring it captures the reader’s interest from the very first sentence. Share a brief overview that highlights why this topic is important and how it can provide value. Use this space to
- [Kinship Tending: A Guide to Strengthening Bonds](https://www.stellarvillage.com/kinship-tending-a-guide-to-strengthening-bonds/) - This paragraph serves as an introduction to your blog post. Begin by discussing the primary theme or topic that you plan to cover, ensuring it captures the reader’s interest from the very first sentence. Share a brief overview that highlights why this topic is important and how it can provide value. Use this space to
- [Joyful Relationships: The Key to Inclusive Communities](https://www.stellarvillage.com/joyful-relationships-the-key-to-inclusive-communities/) - This paragraph serves as an introduction to your blog post. Begin by discussing the primary theme or topic that you plan to cover, ensuring it captures the reader’s interest from the very first sentence. Share a brief overview that highlights why this topic is important and how it can provide value. Use this space to
- [Celebrating Diversity: A Path to Systemic Change](https://www.stellarvillage.com/celebrating-diversity-a-path-to-systemic-change/) - This paragraph serves as an introduction to your blog post. Begin by discussing the primary theme or topic that you plan to cover, ensuring it captures the reader’s interest from the very first sentence. Share a brief overview that highlights why this topic is important and how it can provide value. Use this space to
- [The Power of Vulnerability in Building Relationships](https://www.stellarvillage.com/the-power-of-vulnerability-in-building-relationships/) - This paragraph serves as an introduction to your blog post. Begin by discussing the primary theme or topic that you plan to cover, ensuring it captures the reader’s interest from the very first sentence. Share a brief overview that highlights why this topic is important and how it can provide value. Use this space to
- [How to Foster Authentic Community Connections](https://www.stellarvillage.com/how-to-foster-authentic-community-connections/) - This paragraph serves as an introduction to your blog post. Begin by discussing the primary theme or topic that you plan to cover, ensuring it captures the reader’s interest from the very first sentence. Share a brief overview that highlights why this topic is important and how it can provide value. Use this space to
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